Feminism is insane

oratorasaurus:

Feminism depicts men and patriarchy as responsible for everything, so women’s agency is erased and denied.

You get the same thing when showing the true DV and rape data to feminists, or talking about how women commit most child abuse and therefore create most violent adults, or looking at the history of sexual abuse in the childhoods of convicted male rapists: responsibility all rests on the shoulders of either men and/or patriarchy and women’s participation in the cycle of abuse is minimized and denied (this is why many of us are saying feminism is the real rape and abuse culture).

You get it throughout feminist arguments, the wage gap isn’t seen as something that a woman can simply close by spending as much time at work as men, or supporting men that want to be SAHDs (agency) … instead its construed to be discrimination and men have to use their agency to fix it (pass laws that discriminate against men).

Feminism blames men for “real man” shaming, when in reality its mainly coming from women.

Patriarchy is blamed for all the “gentlemen do this, ladies do that” rules rich women made up years ago, even though today feminism is basically saying “dongle jokes are no way to speak in front of a lady”.

There is demonizing male sexuality and pedestalizing female sexuality: feminism simultaneously does this and claims its “patriarchy” that does it.

These are examples of how feminism perpetuates the very thing it is allegedly fighting.

Yes, this is a huge wall of text with no line breaks but you should give it a read anyway.

igavehermyheartandshegavemeapen:

ok the thing about saying “if you are drunk than you can’t give consent” is that it takes away a woman’s agency. so like, a woman cannot get drunk and sleep w/ someone and MAKE BAD DECISIONS and have it not be considered rape. and i need to be able to make my own decisions and i think that if it is originally your choice to get drunk then you also need to be allowed to make bad/good choices while you are drunk? obviously people do get raped while intoxicated, that is a thing, but you cant say that all drunk sex is rape even IF you regret it afterwards because that kind of means you are saying people (especially women) literally do not have the agency to make a bad choice. like they cannot have sex with someone while drunk and then regret it later!! i am sure that people who have been raped/assaulted/abused need verbal consent a LOT more/always, so I’m not saying this is true for everyone, but at least for me I don’t want to have verbal consent always like it ruins the experience/flow sometimes. like the first time I do things with someone it is nice up hear “is this okay” etc. but like if i have been with you for a while I will speak up if I don’t want to do something?! that is how I am. I am not ever afraid to speak up. but that is probably just my generally-positive experiences that leads me to be that way and how confident i often am in that kind of situation?! but anyways the point is for me, I do not like hearing that drunk people cannot give consent even though that is the *law* because 1. i don’t want my ability to give consent to be based on whether I am inebriated or not and 2. drunk sex is nice so I should be able to have it w/o it being considered rape. again, this is just my experience and opinion here and everyone’s is different but I really wish that *everyone* would realize that everyone IS different and has different experiences so you can’t make one rule about consent for everyone because it doesn’t work that way. especially because someone can totally consent w/o saying so verbally, if you are comfortable enough with someone you can sense what is consensual and what is not. idk. don’t get mad at me for this anyone because this is seriously just my experience but hearing “is this okay to do?” every time can actually be annoying for me and I would rather have general conversations about consent/boundaries with whoever I am participating in sexual acts w/.